Kiss and Make Up: How to get Back on Track After a Fight

Along with all the happy times, every couple is bound to hit that rocky road once in a while. After all, you simply can't be expected to agree on everything all the time. But while fighting is normal in a relationship, it's definitely not fun -- until it's time to make up, that is! According to iVillagers, making up almost makes battling with a beloved worthwhile. When asked how to get a relationship back on track after a fight, iVillagers eagerly shared their secrets -- from laughing the problem away to the ever-popular "make-up sex." Here, some effective argument enders you may want to keep in mind for the next time you and your honey hit a bump in the road.

Take a Time-Out
"After my husband and I have an argument, we spend half an hour apart to let tempers cool. Then we talk it through -- each agreeing to hear the other one out. Once that is over and everything has been discussed to both our satisfactions, we hug and kiss each other. We usually then sit, hold hands and watch a little TV, read a book together or listen to the radio. The most important part is to have that physical contact when all the dust settles." --iVillager Robin

"First we have a disagreement, then we go to neutral corners and cool off. Then we sit down and discuss the problem logically and rationally. We tend to stretch the discussion and find the humor and remember our love for each other. Then the touching and kissing happens! Talking calmly and communicating openly always has a way of getting us back in touch with each other." --iVillager Cate

"I think the best way to make up is to distract yourselves. Get out of the house and do something physical and social. My boyfriend and I go dancing. This keeps us from just sitting around and allowing ourselves to dwell on the disagreement. At the beginning, you don't really want to have anything to do with that person physically, but before long you're kissing, hugging and just enjoying the real reason you are together: the joy that you bring each other." --iVillager Laura

The Power of Laughter
"He's so silly. Every time I'm mad at him, he smiles and says, 'Kelly, don't laugh. You better not laugh. It's not funny.' He makes these really dumb faces and I burst out laughing. We never stay mad at each other. Then we kiss and everything's fine." --iVillager Kelly

"My husband and I get into little spats about everything. To 'kiss and make up,' we generally do something to make each other laugh. Other times we end up making mad, passionate love. I like those times best of all!" --iVillager Erin

Make Love, Not War
"At first we usually scream at each other. When everything calms down, we can sit and actually talk things over. The last thing that we do is make love. I'm not talking just sex, but making love." --iVillager tweetypie44313

"Whenever my hubby and I fight, we wait a couple of hours to cool off. Then we apologize to each other and have the most amazing sex ever." --iVillager SarahB

"My husband and I rarely fight. But when things get tense at our house, it means there is something that needs to be brought out in the open. So, we sit down and talk and cry (well, I cry) and pray for about an hour. And then we rip each other's clothes off and make love. Our relationship always seems to get better every time this happens." --iVillager Jennifer

"My spouse and I can really get into it. But when all is said and done we really get into it at the other end of the spectrum. Rename it 'kiss and make love' in our case. It is always some very hot, heavy and intimate sex. In my opinion, when you are that close, there is no other way to make up for all the bad feelings of fighting. It doesn't always wash it away, but it sure puts a different perspective on things." --Anonymous

Think It Through
"When my hubby and I fight, we never go to bed angry. We always try to reach common ground or take time out and think out the problem. That is just one of the special things I love about our marriage." --iVillager Rachel

"When my husband and I do get into a fight, it's usually for a pretty good reason, although, admittedly, our discussion about him getting a glass of milk and leaving the carton out all night got pretty heated. Some of us like to have cereal in the morning! After we each have presented our case, I leave the room. I sit down somewhere and go over in my head the things that were said. I keep asking myself, 'Was I fair? Was he fair? Is this really worth arguing over? How important is this to me? How important is this to him?' After I've asked these questions, I can identify and disregard the petty stuff and focus on the real problem. I go to him and tell him that we need to talk. I explain that I want to talk, not yell, and then I tell him how I feel. I also work out something we can both do to correct and avoid this problem in the future. Then I kiss him on his forehead, tell him I love him and end the evening by ravishing him on the coffee table!" --iVillager Xris

Why do Men Lie to Women

Why Do Men Lie to Women : Lie No. 1
Question: What are you thinking?
Answer: Nothing.
Question: Seriously, what are you thinking?
LIE: Hmmm, I am thinking about you!!
This is a very common lie that men say to women. Recent survey has proved it that there are in fact times when men think about nothing. It is because such a phenomenon does not occur for women, that when a man actually says "nothing" we don't believe him. That is why they make something up, it will be more believable right?

Even if the man is thinking something, and says "nothing", my suggestion to all women is to drop it for the moment. Men have a tendency to keep things only in their mind until it is a little bit sorted. So, if you keep patience in the start and show them support, by just giving them a sweet smile and saying, "Okay", they might come and discuss it with you, honestly, when they are ready.

Why Do Men Lie to Women : Lie No. 2
Question (on the phone): What are you doing?
Answer: Ummm, nothing just hanging out with friends.
Now, in case he is lying in this case, there is barely any way to know that unless you are spying on him. Either ways, if you really want him to tell you exactly where he is and what he is doing, you are probably asking too much from him. Let's face it, men are the protectors, they are built to be protective and not the most accountable. More so, dealing with a relationship, more specifically, dealing with women, is quite stressing for most men. Hence, if they just want to let loose and do "nothing" with their friends, let them. If you give him space when he needs it, he may even start opening up to you.

Why Do Men Lie to Women : Lie No. 3
Lie: I'll call you!
Now, this one is not always a lie. However, if they don't call you back for 3 days, it is possible that he is playing the 3 day charm on you, to get you longing for his call. In case he doesn't call you for more than 4 or 5 days, he is probably just not that into you. Now, you would ask, "then why did he have to say that he will call me?". Well, the answer to that is that most men are accustomed to end the conversation in that manner. More so, he probably didn't want to hurt your feelings or seem rude. Hence, he said the most "safe" line in the guy's vocabulary. So, lighten up. If you still like him enough, take the initiative and call him. You are a strong, independent women!



Why Do Men Lie about Stupid Things?
Yes, men lie about the silliest things. But, they do it because they are simply scared of your reaction. Yes, we women tend to get all interrogative if something seems a little bit dicey. What do you do to avoid that? Well, you need to build trust in the relationship. Let him, know that there is nothing that he can do that will make you hate him, if he tells you about it honestly. Preach by practice. Tell him everything, even things he may not like. Tell him that you love him and that you trust him with your honesty. It works, when done genuinely.

Why Do Men Lie and Cheat?
Cheating and lying can be a bad combination. Why do men cheat on women? For several reasons. All you have to remember, is that it is not always the man's fault. If you keep a constant distance from him, or if you never trust him, then you are driving him into indiscretion. So, if his behavior makes you suspicious, it is best if you sit down and sort it out with him. Either ways, cheating, in my opinion, is unacceptable, the rest is your decision!

However, many men simply cheat and lie because they can. In such a case, the ball is in your court. You can forgive him and carry on with your life, or you could not forgive him and get revenge, or you could end the relationship and move on with life. Either ways, the best way to know why a person does what he does is by asking him outright. Do not jump to conclusions and judgments, it will more often than not, turn out to be wrong.

Women are blessed with intuition and a whole load of intellect. Use what your "momma gave ya" and have fun with some of the lies that the men say!!

How to Overcome Serious Regrets

There is no such thing as a life without any regrets. However, regrets can become either burdens that interfere with your present happiness and restrict your future, or motivation to move forward. If you find yourself overcome by regrets, here are some steps that should help you integrate them.




Here are the STEPS:


1. Determine what your regret really is. Do you regret something you did or something you didn't do? Something someone else did or did not do? A circumstance beyond your control? It is important to step back from the feelings of regret and identify exactly what the regret is.


2. Determine what your regret really is. Do you regret something you did or something you didn't do? Something someone else did or did not do? A circumstance beyond your control? It is important to step back from the feelings of regret and identify exactly what the regret is.


3. Accept the circumstances. Avoid blaming others but rather take responsibility for anything that you could have better handled.


4. Deal with toxic relationships. Sometimes other people cause us to do things that leave us with serious regrets. Do you have a toxic relationship that needs to be addressed or severed?


5. Grieve for your regrets. When we feel regret, we re-live guilt, sadness or anger over and over again. Allowing yourself to experience these feelings fully with the intention of moving forward can help you stop revisiting them.


6. Recognize what you have learned or gained. When you find yourself thinking of the regret, turn your thoughts to the things you have learned and the opportunities that are now yours - even if they are not what you would have preferred. There is always a lesson even in pain and sadness. Look for the lesson and focus on it instead of what might have been.


7. Write out a plan or agreement for yourself that identifies how you could avoid having this sort of regret in the future.